the worse part is i got a big fn scar on the right side of my head from a previous surgery so i dont know wtf its gona look like when i shave my head.
i know how u feel man, i seriosuly fret about it everyday! i affects my motivation. i think like wtfs the point of working hard when i just gona be like made fun of my whole life.

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Originally posted by Abby:
Youre right man . The worse part is going through college and university it sucks and can affect your ability to study. Trust me guys I know the feeling , but rather than getting depressed i did something about it. I found this forum with Falc & co and did some research over a year. I took out a small loan from the bank over a 12 month period which I know I can pay back, and next year in Feb 2009 ill take another smaller amount out again and probably go for 2000 graft just to give it that extra edge. By the way guys im a full -time student and working part-time delivering pizzas so If I can do it so can you. My advice is shop around do some research and trust me its not that difficult as it seems.

ABBY- how old are? with that loan did you get a transplant? how many grafts? whats ur norwood before the surgery?

Im now 34 had 3250 grafts strip I borrowed exactly £ 1500 over 12 months pounds UK . I think it was hovering around the Norwood 5'ish mark. I had also saved around an extra £1300 from my part-time pizza delivery rounds over the year for the flight and ticket and spends.
Hopefully by next year around the same time im expecting to pay of the loan and apply for another for 2000 grafts to give it that edge. I know I will never have hair as I did when I was younger, but hey! some decent coverage is better than no coverage.

The other important aspect about this whole thing is that one day, I bumped into a old lovely female freind and after a long converstaion she basically said " Abby a persons hair is a certain aspect that makes up a persons facial features which speaks volumes", obviously in a nice manner. It was that very converstaion that triggered do some searching as I was comming to my wits end with concealers, hats, bright lights you name it. After doing research over a year I then decided to take a small loan from the bank As I felt I had done enough waiting, now post op im waiting to see the results, cant wait.

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Originally posted by jw34:
the worse part is i got a big fn scar on the right side of my head from a previous surgery so i dont know wtf its gona look like when i shave my head.
i know how u feel man, i seriosuly fret about it everyday! i affects my motivation. i think like wtfs the point of working hard when i just gona be like made fun of my whole life.

Harden up your personality, develop an arrogant look on your face, shave that head, get your body into tip top shape, and wear tight white tshirts everywhere you go

Believe me, you will be a winner, hair or no hair

Dont people see so many good looking women with bald guys? You see it often - I can guarentee you, that bald guy with the hot girl looked at himself a handful of times and only felt mild annoyance at the condition of his hair - otherwise, he was too busy being cool, tuning women, to care ..... thats why he is happy today

Confidence radiates my friend - If it means upping other parts of your body, like muscles, to acheive it - so be it ......

I am hypocritical I know, butI flipflop a lot - I feel like you, then I feel like the hero guy the nest day - point is, your confidence is what makes you

Good post by anonymous man right above.

im sorry but thats not the best advice. You need to like you for you and you dont need to be the tough guy type with personality and arrogance.

Believe me I fell for that before I lost my hair. When I lost my hair it really gave me a hard look at myself. I lost my confidance big time,but it also let me see that i needed to change,because the looks are not as important than the charachter. I loved the looks but it really got me in more trouble than not. There is always a price to pay in either shoes.

That was how I was as a man before I became a christian and lost my hair. I deceieved myself big time and it actually became a stumbling block for truth which was deception on attitude. I had it and it caused me alot of pain trying to discover who I really was and getting to the place that if someone does not accept me. Move on because someone will be there who truly cares about your feelings. You just got to weed out the bad ones. Believe me when I put on the attitude it did bring success in someways, but I never really had great peace,because I was a counterfeit and I knew it from my character, Plus the people who will be attracted to you in this state,have issues themselves (not to say that we all dont have issues)Just places to improve!!! You will find that out if you take the advice above. The advice was not half bad!!! Workout and feel good about yourself. Working out brings happy cells and that is true (endorphins or happy cells) Shave your head and keep a loving nature. If people are attracted to the arrogant guy run. They themselves have insecurity issues and your big mistake will be to choose them for a partner or friend .Look for someone you can relate to and understands we all have short comings and we are flawed creatures.

Confidance does radiate but true confidance comes through liking yourself. If you dont like yourself you need to look more closely at your life and evaluate and begin to make changes. The bible says that mans heart is wicked and deceitful. Im sorry guys but im a deacon at a church and im just trying to really help this guy at the root,not the stem.

At the end of the day you need to be able to approach hairloss in a positive manner. Concealer really helped me for over 10 years ( in addition to Propecia) to buy time to fix my problem. Yes, it did bother me but remember it is not forever. Lastly, we need to keep everything in perspective as well. It's not life threatening..

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Originally posted by djdennis:
im sorry but thats not the best advice. You need to like you for you and you dont need to be the tough guy type with personality and arrogance.

Believe me I fell for that before I lost my hair. When I lost my hair it really gave me a hard look at myself. I lost my confidance big time,but it also let me see that i needed to change,because the looks are not as important than the charachter. I loved the looks but it really got me in more trouble than not. There is always a price to pay in either shoes.

That was how I was as a man before I became a christian and lost my hair. I deceieved myself big time and it actually became a stumbling block for truth which was deception on attitude. I had it and it caused me alot of pain trying to discover who I really was and getting to the place that if someone does not accept me. Move on because someone will be there who truly cares about your feelings. You just got to weed out the bad ones. Believe me when I put on the attitude it did bring success in someways, but I never really had great peace,because I was a counterfeit and I knew it from my character, Plus the people who will be attracted to you in this state,have issues themselves (not to say that we all dont have issues)Just places to improve!!! You will find that out if you take the advice above. The advice was not half bad!!! Workout and feel good about yourself. Working out brings happy cells and that is true (endorphins or happy cells) Shave your head and keep a loving nature. If people are attracted to the arrogant guy run. They themselves have insecurity issues and your big mistake will be to choose them for a partner or friend .Look for someone you can relate to and understands we all have short comings and we are flawed creatures.

Confidance does radiate but true confidance comes through liking yourself. If you dont like yourself you need to look more closely at your life and evaluate and begin to make changes. The bible says that mans heart is wicked and deceitful. Im sorry guys but im a deacon at a church and im just trying to really help this guy at the root,not the stem.

Hehe my good deacon ....

I was exagerrating a tad with my post - trying to lighten things up.

Being an arrogant pr*ck wont really help you, no .... but becoming a little bit more confident, less concerned over hair loss, and identifying the things inside yourself that make you happy are important

All of us here are concerned with hair loss, so I am fairly sure its safe to say we are all concerned with our appearance ....

Therefore, its a few simple logical steps from here.

If we would be happy with a full head of hair, I am sure we would be happy with anything that makes us look 'better' in our own eyes.

I saw a six pack on your gut, arms that are bubbly, a chest that sticks out (and feels like) like an ironing board, and shoulders that are bulging will make us a little bit happier to look in the mirror

WHen I look at my head, I feel depressed. But when I look at my chest when I wear a tight white tee, I am beaming (and I am desperately ttrying to get more more MORE meat on my body).

Gym and the resulting physical 'superiority' feeling you have when being beefy and ripped, is an AWESOME measure to help get the confidence up. For me it is anyway.

When I am feeling down, and act like a mouse, I get little to no attention. I had y hair cut today in a hairdressing place, and the girl was stunning. I shrunk in that seat, and just wanted to get out. She was fairly indifferent, and we didnt talk. The guy next to me was balding too, yet he was on top of the world, and was bantering with his hairdresser, laughing, and getting heaps of attention!

My point is, do what you need to do - when I wear my fav outfit etc, I go out looking like a tank, I still get the looks from the girls, and the guys too, probably saying 'look at that hero, what a d*ckhead, but still, his arms are pretty chunky' haha


BE HAPPY is the key, if your hair sux, then compensate with other factors that you have better control over. Discipline and hard work cost nothing - and you can have phenomanal confidence boosting results from it.


What a rant ... sigh ..... and look at me tooting my own horn. I actually have deflated heaps, and look crap these days - just a sloppy bald guy now hehehe

Cheer up depressed friends - lest I spiral out of control ... again

I stand my my opinion, anonymous man, that your advice is good.

dewayne, i see you got a HT on march 20th... howd that go man?

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Originally posted by Jupiter:
dewayne, i see you got a HT on march 20th... howd that go man?

The whole thing has been pretty awesome, but I've got the doldrums I think because it'll be a couple months before I get any growth.