I started losing my hair around 17, at 20 I was probably a NW 3 almost 4. I went ahead and had a HT by, dun dun dun dun. Yes by Dr.Bernstein. Maybe he learned his lesson from me because I now hear he turns guys down under 25 without blinking. At first my HT looked really good, mixed in with my existing hair, plus I was using rogaine. I actually went back for a second one with Dr.B as I had lost more hair in the following year. So by the end of my 22nd year I had two HTs. For about 4 years I looked excellent, beautiful girlfriend, going out partying. Feeling great. Then for some reason around 26 nearly all the transplanted hair fell out except for some pluggy 4-5 hair grafts in my hairline and I looked like a fool. Whenever it got wet people would ask "Hey did you have a hair transplant?" Also My donor scar had slightly widened and could be seen through my hair. Furthermore my hairloss was progressing to a NW6 and another scar I had in this area was becoming apparent. I went to Dr.Roy Jones of NHI to be evaluated for a FOX test and was rejected but told I could have a scar revision that would yield about 500 grafts which could be used for my crown and head injury scar.(long story) Now I don't know what this guy was smoking because 400 grafts -about 100 for my head injury scar was not even worth doing! To make a long story short, the scar has stretched to nearly an inch wide and is now impossible to conceal. I am 27 years old and girls won't touch me with a ten foot pole. They think I'm funny and nice, but say things like "i will be honest and say that i probably don't have the emotional availability to have a connection with you right now." or some variation of this theme. I wonder if these hair transplant docs would be able to handle sitting alone in an apt for months and months disfigured and without any hope of being intimate with someone again. I would give my left nut to be bald. Yes to have no hair at all and not have to have these hideous scars + a mangled donor area. There are things worse than hairloss and ironically fighting hairloss can lead you to them. There are no easy answers in this industry. The top FUE (no donor scar type of procedure) doc is Dr.Woods in Australia is most likely beyond your financial means but is really the only doctor I can recommend 100% though there are some close second doctors performing FUE and who will one day probably be good choices. Hair transplants have ruined my life. I sit every night posting on hair loss message boards or remembering what is was like to kiss a girl. Sometimes I feel so depressed I can't even get up to eat. Think about it, do you really want to end up in my shoes? I am pursuing various options to climb out of my hell but I don't know when and if it will be possible. All I can really advise you is to read read read. Go to hairlosshelp.com hairlosstalk.com and this site. Read for a good month straight before making any decision whatsoever.

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Poet

Poet thats nuts !!!!

How can this sight recommend Dr Bernstein after what he did to this kid???????

I almost got set up for the kill !!!

Thanx for that post poet

Paul,

Dude, your desperation and determination are leading you down the road to disaster. You don't want to read the writing on the wall no matter who points it out to you. Poster after poster has told you not to do it. But your insistence has made a few of us recommend you see Dr. Bernstein, and all of us told you what was going to happen when you went to see him. And we were all right. Why were we right? Because we little young one have learned from experience, and are trying to keep you from making the same mistake many of us had. But your stubburn about your decision. So go pay some unethical doctor to perform a hair transplant on you, and I promise within the next year you'll be back on this site crying about how big of a mistake you made. But, oh well, we can always use another person on this site to help the next young guy try to understand that a hair transplant is a mistake at such a young age. Obviously we don't have enough guys to point it out to you now. So come join the club of people on this site who are miserable about the worse decision they made of their lifes. You'll be one of the regular poor soles here logging on everyday hoping that today is the day the mircle cure is discovered, and finally you'll be able to correct the mistake you made at 23. Good luck man. I pray for you.

Mr. Hair

So what is the purpose of this sight??

Is it to prevent people from having transplants at all or to guide one to a good surgeon?

Everyone that posts on here has had bad results ? i think not

Why is a list of "great surgeons" compiled for then ?

Whats wrong with restoring my hairline now and as i lose hair in the future i have more transplants.
Thats my plan

My main concern is it looks natural.As long as that is accomplished im a happy camper

Okey Dokey Pauwy, you wanna to be tweated wight away?

Awwwww! You say you towd da good docta you insisted on having a trwanspwant, but he wouldn't budge??!

Awwwww, you aaah in BIG BIG BIG TWOUBWE!!!

Wet me tew you something: you DEFINATELY ARE in big trouble, Paul, because you seem to have always been used to getting what you wanted in life, pretty sharpish, by my reckoning, and without much interference for the sake of what was necessarily best for you in life. F^@k me if I'm wrong, but I'll bet you come from a pretty well-to-do family, and they never realized that what you actually needed in life was either a hell of a good spanking every once in a while, and/or a decent military academy.

Maybe you think that all anything takes in life is a few "well-placed" questions to "rouse the spirits of the good hearted (but dumb) hoi polloi of the world" in order to get what it is you're after on the web (i.e.- mass concession for what it is you're actually striving after in the depths of your super ego).

Your friend probably didn't advise you to plumb the depths of this website in a fashion analogous to the manner in which you're attempting. He/she probably meant for you to actually READ a few of the EXPERIENCES logged heavily within it, before looking like an ASS by asking so many FRICKING, ridiculously UNREAD questions!

You're going to have to change your name now (do you realize?) before you're forever regarded as the spoiled brat whose always had everything served up to him on a platter and couldn't be bothered to actually dig a little bit into the facts for himself before making a potential ass of himself in revealing how "important" his questions were above anybody else's (regardless of the fact that they were ALL asked a thousand times before – if one would only LOOK) on this website!

Dr Berstein is one of the finest hair transplant surgeons on the PLANET.

How do you think he came about achieving such a reputation - by delivering anything less than absolutely natural hair transplantations?

Do you actually believe that a natural appearance is the NORM for a hair transplant surgeon's delivery???!

Tell you what, Paul, you go ahead and keep your appointment with MHR, ˜cause you obviously fall within that miniscule proportion of individuals, in life, whose impulses always prove to be infallible.

Don't ask me to name any of the ones I actually know of, in life – just rest safe in the knowledge that you're the first of these superheroes that any of us has ever heard of, let alone met!

Rock on, man!

P.S. - Do you remember where it was I said I'd gotten my HT from, how about jotronic's (or are you okay with doing a little reading within the same thread you actually started?)???

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DUDE, i think everyone that has responded to you has said DON'T do it, so did the guy who went to school for like 50 million years and is respected as one of the top 3 in the USA. Guarranteed(bad spelling) you will thank your lucky stars for listening to the idiots like me, or you can antie up and help pay for the ride. Doing so could ruin your life, ESPECIALLY with the gomer pyles you are thinking of going to. I dare someone to tell me i'm wrong!!

Paul80
You will certainly be able to find a doctor who is willing to take your money. Does that make it the "right decision"? You can find a doctor who will give you breasts, too. YOU ARE NOT BALD ENOUGH YET FOR A HAIR TRANSPLANT, as Dr. Bernstein told you. That must be a terrible dissapointment!

Get the cobwebs off your brain and start listening and learning. Your hair transplant might look great for a few years. 5 years from now you might be in a terrible mess, because you wouldn't listen.

Your insecurity is going to make an ass of you.

I expect to read more posts from you in the future... "I wouldn't listen.. Now what do I do?"

I hope it is a learning experience. Smart people try to learn BEFORE they drive off a cliff, but to each his own I guess.

Good luck.

Look, I just want to say, first of all, that I'm sorry for attacking you like I just did, Paul. It was a bit out of line (in my book) for me to have a go at you like that, and I sincerely apologize if I offended you.

The purpose of this site IS to give people, such as yourself, the best advice possible based off of who you are, where YOU'RE at, and what your goals are. Yes, it's primary purpose is to steer people into the hands of excellent, trust-worthy surgeons - if a HT is for you, but - because this forum is made up of people who have had both good AND bad experiences (of every kind imaginable), you will find that you're not necessarily going to be getting a symphony of sympathy for what it is that ails you. This is because of the SIMPLE FACT that YOUR PLAN (of just topping off with more HT's as you progress down the road) is INFEASABLE given the limited amount of supply you have to work with, if you're looking to maintain a high school hairline (unless you fully expect not to recede any further - which is a HUMUNGOUS GAMBLE). YOU REALLY, REALLY, REALLY NEED TO DO YOUR HOMEWORK HERE, PAUL! This is a basic fact regarding Hair Transplantation. You will very likely look like a FREAK by the time you're 35 if you insist on maintaining a high school hairline, because you will find out – the hard way – that your wonderful plan did not take into account the simple law of supply not meeting demand.

Your impulsive inclination to immediately jump into the hands of any doctor willing to take you is going to spell ruin for your future if you don't seriously step back, DO YOUR RESEARCH, and rethink your whole approach on this.

To get back to the spirit of sharing ideas constructively, though, I want to encourage you to do as you, yourself, said:

>>> "I would like to show you all some close-up pics on here and take a little poll. How would i go about doing this ??? thanks !!!" <<<

I think that that's actually a great idea, Paul. I believe that taking a poll may actually be of further benefit. You never know, right?

To post pics, I believe all you need to do is check the box marked "Post Attachment", under the actual text box where you type your replies (under "Options"). Please give this a try so that we can all have a look at your current level of recession.

Peace,
HarryLemon

Paul,

I was the same as you... and I acted on my receding hairline... to my regret.

Actually, I thought I had won the "gene" lottery because I am four years older than my brother and he had lost all his hair, while I still had quite a full head at the time. Just like you, I thought I'd stop the loss I was seeing. I had old style punch grafts done in my mid-twenties and then mini/micro grafts in my very early 30's. Both blended in well when i had a pretty ful head of hair.

Now my hairline has almost caught up with my brother's. I am a NW 5A/6 with a bunch of unsightly plugs and grafts in front and not much behind it. As a result, I am reading every damn post on this board to learn what I can so I make sure no further mistakes are made... by me. I don't blame the doctors or clinics because they were my choices... and I made bad ones, but now I have a means to learn from the positive and negative experiences of others. It's this board and I am using it for all its worth.

That's my story. I'd for it to be yours. Even with the newer techniques, you'll be better off waiting and much happier that you did. Don't get a HT. YOU WILL REGRET IT!

Mr T

Paul80: I think you've heard the consensus, and you are saying, "these guys don't understand my situation". Honestly, that is what I'd say to someone if I was 20 and balding. But please also, I hope this has at least arised a "reasonable doubt" as to what your impulses are telling you to do.
Yeah, you'll find someone to do an HT. But that money won't buy to what you want. Be assured of that.

poet: man, I am so sorry you had/have to go through all that BS because you took action early. You were proactive and tried to take control of things and it produced unexpected results.
But let me say, that I respect the candor of your post. That took courage to write. You helped someone else by writing something like that.
It sucks that girls can be so BS sometimes, especially considering some of the monumental insecurities they can bring to a relationship.
All I can say is this: everybody respects courage. And you have displayed that to me.

I don't know if my opinion means anything to you, but I had to write that.

vocor1

thanks it does mean something to me.